Sacred Sexuality and Fertility: How the Way You Make Love Affects Conception
There is a conversation happening in fertility clinics, in supplement routines, in cycle tracking apps, and in acupuncture offices all over the world. And it is almost never about sex.
Which is strange, when you think about it. Because sex is how most people conceive. And the quality of that experience, the presence, the intention, the energetic state of both people in that bed, turns out to matter more than most fertility programs acknowledge.
On a recent episode of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM, I sat down with Leia, a priestess, metaphysician, and fertility guide who works at the intersection of Egyptian cosmology, sacred sexuality, and spirit baby communication. She is also the founder of Flo Priestess and someone I have been on a slow and honest journey of friendship with after a clunky beginning that we chose to clean up rather than walk away from.
We talked about cervical orgasms, the ankh as a divine union code, what it means to be sexually sovereign, how to create a simple fertility ritual, and what spirit babies actually are. It was one of the most unusual and necessary conversations I have recorded.
The Part Everyone Forgets About Fertility
Leia opened with something that has stayed with me. She trains in spirit baby communication, which is the practice of connecting with the consciousness of a soul that is waiting to come through. And even in those trainings, she noticed, almost no one talked about sex.
It boggled her mind. Because so many people struggling with fertility are doing everything right on paper. The supplements. The cycle tracking. The Traditional Chinese Medicine. The IVF consultations. And they are living almost entirely in their heads, managing a medical process rather than inhabiting their bodies and their pleasure.
The body, Leia argues, knows things the mind does not. And the quality of the erotic connection through which you are attempting to conceive is not a small variable. It is, in many ways, the whole thing.
Orgasmic Conception and the Imprint of Beginnings
Ideally, Leia said, a child would be conceived during a dual orgasm. Not because this is required, not because there is something wrong if it does not happen that way, but because the creation energy unleashed in that moment carries an imprint. You are literally encoding the frequency of that experience into the first cells of a new life.
Beyond conception, birth itself is a threshold. A shamanic and psychedelic initiation for both mother and father, involving a level of death and rebirth that our culture has largely stripped of its meaning. Leia works as a threshold guide for these moments, including in cases of miscarriage and abortion, which she views as equally significant rites of passage that deserve ceremony and acknowledgment rather than silence.
Her premise is that we are missing two of the most important initiations available to human beings. The energetic imprint of how we were conceived, and the threshold experience of how we were born. And healing forward from that, for ourselves and for the children we hope to bring in, begins with reclaiming the sacredness of erotic connection.
What the Cervix Actually Is
I teach cervical orgasms. I have had them. And still, this conversation took me somewhere I had not fully gone before.
Leia described the cervix as a Stargate. A portal to eternity. The doorway to the temple of the womb. And she connected it to something that felt both ancient and immediately practical: the cervix holds memory. Every person who has entered that space has left an imprint. Years of those imprints can accumulate as numbness, tension, cervical dysplasia, or a general disconnection from sensation in one of the most potent areas of the female body.
Leia herself had a LEEP procedure years ago to address cervical dysplasia. That physical initiation is what brought her to the womb healing path in the first place.
The practice she described for working with the cervix involves a downward releasing flow, consciously moving old energy out during menstruation or during intentional self-pleasure, followed by drawing earth energy upward and re-consecrating the temple. This can be done with hands, with a crystal wand, with obsidian for its absorptive properties, or with a yoni egg to strengthen and awaken the pelvic tissues.
If the idea of a cervical orgasm feels remote or unreachable, I want to offer this: the first step is simply presence. Not orgasm as a goal. Just curiosity. Treating your own body as a living intelligence rather than a mechanism. Spending time there without agenda. Finding what has gone numb and breathing into it. That is where it begins.
The Ankh as a Fertility and Union Practice
Leia works with Egyptian tantric lineage, and one of the central tools she offered in our conversation is the ankh, the ancient Egyptian symbol of life, often depicted as a cross with a loop above it.
She described it as a divine union code. The stem represents the masculine, the pillar of Osiris, the spine. The loop at the top represents the feminine, symbolic of the womb, the portal, the circulating field. Together they form a complete circuit.
She uses it as a three-breath sequence, moving energy up through the cross into the heart, spreading the arms wide like the wings of Isis, and amplifying through the loop of the ankh, then offering the energy back into the earth. She uses it during orgasm as an amplification tool, cycling the energy intentionally rather than allowing it to dissipate.
This is advanced work in the sense that doing it requires practice with moving energy consciously. But the map itself is simple, and any breathwork or somatic practice begins to open the pathway toward it.
Sexual Sovereignty: What It Actually Means
Sovereignty is a word that circulates widely in spiritual communities without always landing in the body. Here is how Leia defined it, and it resonated with everything I teach.
Sovereignty is the recognition that you are whole and complete as you are. That you do not require another person to complete you. That you can come into deep communion with someone else without losing yourself in the process. That the laws governing your erotic life are not necessarily the laws of your parents, your religion, your culture, or your fear.
She described the moment she reoriented herself toward what the Egyptian lineage calls Maat, universal law, and made a sovereign declaration from her own throne. Something clicked into place. A program stopped running.
For those of us who have had to rebuild this, and most of us have, it often requires a period of aloneness. Not as punishment. As reclamation. Leia was single for three years before calling in her current partner. I have had my own chapters of choosing to be alone, including a nine month celibacy I wrote about in another episode, specifically to stop outsourcing my sense of self to the desire of others.
What becomes available on the other side of that is remarkable. When two sovereign people come together, Leia said, you can swap DNA codes and lifetimes of intelligence. You can know, within moments, that this is the person. Because you are no longer looking for someone to fill what is missing. You are coming as someone already whole, choosing to merge.
Simple Practices to Begin Tonight
Leia offered a handful of accessible entry points, and I want to pass them along directly.
Before lovemaking, light a candle and state your intention out loud. Not silently. Out loud. What is the energy you are calling into this space? What do you want to create between you and your partner? Speak it.
Brew a cup of tea with damiana, blue lotus, and rose. Damiana is one of the great plant allies for erotic opening and creative flow. It has been used by the Mayans for thousands of years in sexual ritual. Blue lotus opens the upper chakras and softens the nervous system. Rose supports the heart. Drink this together before you touch.
Sit across from each other and do rotational belly breaths. One person inhales as the other exhales. Let the breath move between you. Add slow, sustained eye contact. Do this for five to ten minutes before any physical contact. Notice how the room changes. Notice how you feel in your body.
Introduce sensory experience. Honey. Chocolate. Anointing oils. The act of eating something from your partner's skin is an ancient form of erotic reverence. It slows everything down. It brings you into the present moment through your senses rather than through your mind.
And if you are in a conscious conception process, Leia offered this: invite the spirit baby to be present with you. Call them in. Tell them you are purifying your frequency to become a vibrational match for them. Most spirit babies waiting to come through, she said, are highly evolved souls waiting for parents who have done the inner work to receive them.
A Note on Miscarriage and Abortion
Leia holds free monthly circles for pregnancy loss of all kinds, including abortion and miscarriage, on the 22nd of every month. She treats these as the rites of passage they are, rather than events to be silently endured or quickly moved past. If you have been carrying one of these experiences alone, her work is worth finding.
Where to Find Leia
She is at flowpriestess.com and on Instagram at Flo Priestess. She also hosts a free monthly transmission called Flow Club on the 22nd of every month, offers a course on healing the mother wound, and does spirit baby consultations, fertility support, and pregnancy loss work.
For the full conversation including our discussion of Egyptian tantric lineage, the wild aphrodisiac moment involving her partner and a sacred hunt, our honest reflection on the clunky beginning of our friendship, and my realization that I have never thought to ask my own father about the circumstances of my conception, find that episode of Sex Ritual Radio on KXFM and wherever you stream podcasts.
If you are navigating your erotic life, your fertility journey, or simply a hunger for something more intentional and alive in your intimate world, I work with women one on one in private coaching. Applications are open at roseheartsong.com.
Rose Heartsong is a certified intimacy coach and the host of Sex Ritual Radio. She works with couples, men, and women who are ready to bring intention, sovereignty, and sacredness back into their erotic lives. Your heartsong is waiting.
